Tuesday, November 16, 2010
Relationships Ups and Downs
So my younger sister is going through a breakup with a boyfriend of two years. It was pretty much her first major relationship, and she took it pretty hard. He ended up ending it because he went to college out of state, so they really never saw each other. Well now having been about 2 months since there breakup there has been so much drama with it. He was keeping in contact with her since the breakup and she ended up telling him it was to hard for her and that she couldn't talk to him until she really got over it. There has been so much more then just that, that has went on. Well anyways, she is finally moving on and he calls her the other night after they had a huge fight about all of it and he says he wants to see her over thanksgiving break since it will be the first time he has been home since august. She tells me they are going to 'talk'. I guess I just don't want it to start all over again and see her get hurt once again. I feel as if guys just have something within them that makes them so strong and tough that they can even put girls through this. Girls on the other hand have such soft emotions it takes such a different tole on us. She says she won't go back to him, but I just feel him and most guys in general know how to turn things around, and that he could get her to change her mind. I hope not and if so I just hope everything works out for the best of them! And pray that I don't need to see my sister go through it all again.
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I hope things turned out okay! I feel the same way. It seems to me that guys can readily break up with girls and go on simply acting like nothing happened while girls spend a good day or two crying about it.
ReplyDeleteI recently just went through a break up and he followed that example. I had some things to take care of on campus the night it happened, so I held it together. But when I got home I lost it. How did he handle it? He got super drunk with his roommate and all of their friends. I don't think us girls will ever understand boys and their ways.
I agree, I hope all is well with the two of them and you sister doesnt end up hurt by the same guy again. But I'm not so sure this is just a guy thing, its more of the fact that one side is always more devoted to the relationship then the other. While guys seem to keep it together better than girls its not necassarily the case, women are just more likely to show and share their emotions. Guys have been trained since a young age to act tough and be the stronger sex. I feel like your sisters boyfriend really cared for her but felt like it was unfair to both of them to be tied up in a relationship when they couldnt be together. This is a hard idea for some people to understand especially when you dont see the difficulties the way the other person does. To me it seems that guys are more likely to choose second best then girls are though, they will settle where women will fight for the best.
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